I'm not sure this is the right place to start a tread like this, I mean it could have been in the Relationship section but it's definitely something I need support with. I've been with my wife for almost 20 years, I know this is a hek of a long time. We met when we were 18 and I guess we felt good with each other, just being together and a baby followed not long after we met. The family thing kept us really busy and I guess I was met to be a father because I'm doing a pretty good job a it but around my 30 it didn't feel right anymore, something was missing and I openned up to her about this men attraction I have and always had. SHe reacted ok at first but then went in total denyal saying I could satisfy her and that she didn't beleive I was really gay. It didn't matter I decided to get on with it and I went to do some exploration meeting with guys just to know and I was amazed how sex with men was so natural to me. No matter what everytime I seemed to sabotage any relationship with men I was in and beside realized it just can't work when you are already in a relationship . It's hard to explain but somehow, me and my wife seemed to be glued to each other and can't find a way to make the seperation. We just don't talk about it and when I bring on the subject once in a while it seem her whole world is falling apart and mine too actually since we have defined our life during 20 years. Thing is I care a whole lot for her, and I have a hard time imagining myself without her but still deepdown I know it just can't work anymore. I mean is cold turkey the only way? I'm actually planning to just take my things and move out this summer when the kids are in camp, just take a month off from each other, and I wonder if this is the right thing to do and if I should tell her before or just leave when the time is right. How did you manage this?