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Buying the House!
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Question. How did any of you guys, introduce na BF to your parents and siblings? help

I think my mom suspects, though I am not sure. Over the last 3 years, i have been in a relationship with Dwight. Up until this year, I had removed all traces of pictures etc of him as my parents came to visit.

I don't wanna do this any more. Any ideas?


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Posts: 100 | Location: Saskatoon, SK Canada | Registered: 21 July 2005Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
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Well, your ex-wife knows you are gay, right? I suspect that it won't be a big surprise to your parents. After three years, hunny, maybe it's just time to relax and BE. Maybe it's time to say, hey there's a big part of my life I've not felt able to talk to you about before, but here it is.

I know it may sound scary, but whether they are receptive or not, I can tell you that my experience was that it was a relief not to have the uncertainty of this issue hovering over me anymore.

Best of luck, darlin'.

David


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Posts: 621 | Location: Central Pennsylvania | Registered: 04 June 2005Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
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Thanks for the help David. You are prolly right. I guess I will just leave everything up and see what happens the next visit. If anyone asks I will tell them as well...


Take care, eh?

--The Wizard

"A heart is not judged by how much you love; but by how much you are loved by others."

Visit 'OZ' - The 'Other' Side of the Rainbow

http://othersiderainbow.blogspot.com
 
Posts: 100 | Location: Saskatoon, SK Canada | Registered: 21 July 2005Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
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I was thinking about this a little more. Read my reply and thought, damn! I must have been in a pissy mood that day. I hope it didn't sound too trite to you, because I should have said more.

You see, I honestly couldn't face (at the time) coming out to my father in person. He had heard all the rumours that rocked the family and the church. It was reported that he said "I don't know anything until I hear it from my son."

But I still feared his rejection. So I told him in a letter. And in that letter I mentioned Brian too. So when Brian came to my sister's wedding, my father went out of his way to make him feel welcome, and shake off any residual awkwardness any of us might have felt. I simply introduced him as Brian. And Dad told him he was very glad he came. I can tell you, as the son of that old baptist missionary, I almost cried on the spot.

My best to you, bro. I hate to say good luck, so I'll just say, stay strong and keep smiling.


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Wow, David. Good on your dad! That took a lot of courage on his part.

Wiz, I've used the terms "someone special in my life" with my kids and ex-wife. I'm more inclined to use the word boyfriend or future partner with my mom and sisters. For the most part, its been a non-issue. If/when I use "spouse" or "husband", I'm sure there will be sparks Smiler
 
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Hmmm... My parents didn't know about me being gay. After I'd been dating a guy for about 3 months, I made sure he kept coming over whenever they were visiting and they got to like him a lot.Then I told them... (after they'd asked whether he was gay). They were surprised at first but the fact that they had said how much they liked him before made it difficult for them to go back on their words. So, in the end, was no problem!
 
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