I haven't posted much in the last few months so I wanted to say hello again to everyone. To make a long story short, I had to take a break from many things to deal with some issues that were causing much stress in my life, both professionally and personally. I don't want to go into details but suffice to say that sometimes in life, you are dealt relationship cards that are extremely difficult to swallow and reconcile.

The added complexity that didn't help matters was that in my professional life, I had to work through one of the most difficult situations I've ever dealt with, namely having to work in a situation that was a complete disaster in every aspect. I had the opportunity to work in NYC at a very large prominent company yet behind the facade of the famous name, their project was an utter disaster and I had to figure out how to either help fix or get out. I tried for several weeks to figure out how to fix but I came to the realization that they weren't going to budge and would continue down their self-imploding path. So my only option then was to leave, which I did.

Meanwhile on the personal front, I had been seeing a wonderful guy who decided that we couldn't go further and ended our relationship (after 6 months). I was needless to say, devastated. I cannot describe the feeling of loss, many of you probably have been there before. It was only the second time in my life that this has happened with another guy. Of course the disolution of my marriage was another kind of loss but not like this.

Since all this has unfolded, I have started to work on a new project where the stress is almost non-existent and I actually enjoy going to work. 2nd, I've started to see someone new and I'm taking it one day/step at a time, but I'm feeling much better now, both about my personal and professional lives.

Finally, yesterday I executed the final financial transaction that separates me from my ex. She got the house re-financed and now my name is both off the deed and the original loan. The only connection now that I have with her are our daughters. It's been 3 years since our divorce was final.

This weekend I am joyed by the many things that are moving positively in my life. But I am also distressed at the continuing death and distruction to our military members both the US and the UK in Iraq as well as all the soldiers in Afghanistan.

2008 will not come soon enough so that we can rid this country of both this insane President and his enablers, the moronic Republican members of Congress. Sometimes I wish we had a parliamentary system, but alas, we don't so we'll have to wait for 2008 to get rid of these bastards.

Cheers,


Jim

Congratulations Jim! Sounds like you have made some positive choices and postive reactions over the last few months. I can relate to how you feel about completing the financial seperation from your ex. For me, it became a freedom and acceptance that our relationship was completely severed. It allowed me to no longer see her as an ex, but as a person. I also felt as though I did not have to worry about carrying that fiscal baggage into my future relationships.

It's awesome to hear about the lower stress job and taking steps to continue to meet new people. Thank you for sharing your successes and showing the rest of us that it is possible!

-Lew