haven't been on for a while but have been readin gthe daily digests. just in the midst of moving - which on the west coast of canada is a big deal. real estate being what it is here. we are moving close to the school so my duaghter will be within walking distance. she likes our house and doesn't really want to move. i figure she has to move but she doesnt have to want to move. i want to leave it open to her .. she's going to love it eventually, but i want to let her make that discovery. I've never been one for trying to convince people of my "position." it been a hard decision as i have been co-parenting with my duaghter's mother. her partner has always been very interfereing and intrusive though, so it's been making the co-parenting hard.

Glad you are still here, Dado!

Wait, sorry, I hit "post now" before I was done!

The co-parenting with an uncooperative third party involved must be frustrating. To be honest, it was one of my worst fears at one time, especially when I worried that my former wife's moods were not stable. In my case it never happened since she chose to remain happily single. So I am fortunate not to be in those circumstances. And these days even the ex-mother-in-law is supportive rather than combative.

Is there anything that can be done through her mother to "back him off" or would this just be seen as you trying to meddle in her relationship? I guess that depends on your current relations with your former wife.

I agree with not trying to twist your daughter's arm, but then some facts, like a move, are just things that happen that we must deal with in life. I know we did it growing up. I don't think my parents ever looked for my approval about where we were moving to, and I just figured that was part of the way life went, so I dealt with it. It seems that your loving open approach is best.

Warm thoughts and a brotherly shoulder to you. Keep us up to date on how the move goes.

HUGS!