Just wanted to write and say hello. Recently divorced from 7 year marriage. I have two boys, ages 4 and 5. Not been able (until now) to find a gay dads group. Hoping to meet folks online and share/learn experiences. Live in SE Houston. Looking forward to getting to know other dads out there with similar situations.

Hi TXDad....and welcome,

I am very glad that you have found us and posted something of your situation. We are a very diverse bunch in gf.com, but many come from a situation not dissimilar to your own. David our founding father, set up this group initially for other guys like himself that had tried to live a 'normal' life, conform and have a family but then realized that life was too short to live that lie for ever. In time we have to be honest to ourselves, those that we love and care for...and in time our kids.

I too was married for a few years and had a son. It took time to make the right decisions, and then deal with the emotional roller coaster that followed. Today, 10 years after coming out and 4-5 after getting divorced, life is pretty good. I live with a great guy, my son lives month about between us and his mother...and we all just get on with life...his mother has issues from time to time, and tries to yank the chain, but doesn't seem to realize that those days are long gone.

I trust you feel able to share a little more with us here, ask questions, share the rough and the good times...have a good look around and see what other fathers who happen to be gay have had to say.

Cheerio for now....Vincent..xx

Glad to meet you, TX! It is tough to find a group like this, I know. That's why I really need to spend more time here. This has been a busy year; new job, new house. Thank you (and vince!) for reminding me what GF is for.

TX, I hope you'll do some looking back in our forums. If you do, you'll find a lot of stories that you can relate to. Each is unique, yet there are so many common themes. You'll find some good strong shoulders to lean on and a lot of reason for optimism. If want, you can even find some solid friends for life here, like I have (in the real world, not just online). I don't have any closer friends in the world than Smokey and Vince.

You're probably still in a bit of a roller coaster stage with emotions and situations regarding the divorce/separation. But, hang in there. The honesty and integrity that you may gain in the eyes of your sons will be worth it.

At least that's how I've seen things with my three sons.

Again, welcome and good to meet you, TX.

Your friend,
David

Hi There TXDad!

Congratulations on many levels:

1. Coming out and being honest with yourself

2. Finding GayFatherhood. I have made a couple of friends here, who live in various places across the country. I was so relieved to find a site where other Gay Dads assembled, at the very least shared their thoughts/concerns.

I'm Jeff. I live in NC. I was married 17 years before coming out. I have 3 kids. My oldest son is adopted and gay, as well. He starts law school this fall.

My daughter just turned 16 a few weeks back. She's beautiful, funny and keeps the house full of her friends.

My youngest son is 13 and a wild boy. He's all about the outdoors, animals, and GIRLS !!

My oldest son has lived with me since the adoption a few years ago. The younger two kids, I have joint custody with my ex wife.

Well, Good Luck to you ! I truly hope you continue to find happiness. I'm sure the turmoil from the divorce is still impacting, but as time passes, things will become more and more clearer.

If you ever need to chat, hit me up.

Jeff

Thanks guys for the welcome and thanks to David for suggesting reading previous posts. Not much in the know about computers or navigating around websites, so it might take awhile to get used it. I have my boys today (SPO by the courts)so I'll be hanging out with them. After I take them back to my exwife's this evening, I plan on poking around the site and seeing what's going on.

Man, I sure do miss them when they're not with me. They were all I knew when I was married. I know I wasn't the best husband when I was married, but I'm committed to being the best father to my two sons.

Thanks Vince, David and Jeff for the warm welcome and I look forward to writing/chatting with other dads out there.

hello TXDad and welcome! I know what you mean when you say you miss your sons, that happens to me on Sunday evening when I return my daughters.

Many of us have kids through marriage and now gone through divorce as well, so we certainly understand the situation. Your comments and questions are welcome and I think you'll find the guys here are great!

I live in the burbs of Atlanta and have 3 daughters, 15, 11 and 6.

Cheers for now!

Jim