I love this board. So many of you have given me great advice. I appreciate it. I've modified my plan somewhat to accomodate my wife. I am now going to tell my kids at the end of March. I am moving out of my house on June 1st. That's one day after my daughter graduates highschool. Maybe not the best time to do it but there is never a best time. Really had to set a date and just live with it. My wife sarted to cry later that night. What could I do? I just held her until she pushed me away. I feel better so my kids will have time to adjust before I leave. I'll also try to involve them in helping me find a place. Still don't know how they'll react but, in time, they'll come to realize it was for the best. Worry some about my son (13). His sister will be leavign for college in the Fall. That leaves him alone with mom, and me, separately. He's invloved in sports and school activities,and his friends, so hopefully he'll be occupied.

I am really looking forward to this transition. I am actually looking forward to living alone. 6 months ago I was really scared about that prospect. Now it's sort of soothing. Probably because of the decrease in tension and stress it will bring. for both of us. Probably all of us.

Anway, wanted to provide another update. Not what some had suggested but I feel this is the best way for my family to transition.

Sounds like you have a great plan. I understand the "looking forward to moving out" feeling and once you are in your own place it will definately lower your stress which means clarity of thought. The time you are going through is definately a difficult one for you and your ex. As for the kids, I found out later that my kids knew all along there were problems and ultimately were glad we went our own way. (Side note here - I actually waited until I was in my place a while to tell them I was gay but they "kinda knew it" all along.) The key is to stay involved. Even though you may alter your plan you are on the right path. Stick with it bud!

Thanks for the update...

With Best Regards,
Alex

I think you are doing the RIGHT thing. I am proud you have set a date and are sticking with it. I am telling my children over spring break. This way they are not going back to school the next morning after I tell them.

I like you, AM SO Excited to get out of the house, and looking for some relief from tension. God it seems like you are writing my story. The only difference is my children's ages.


HOUTX

These are hung issues that have suc a tremendous impact on ourselves and our kids. Thank you for the consideration and thoughtfulness that you have put into managing this situation. If nothing else, I hope your kids can appreciate the amount of effort that you have put in to working through a difficult situation. Good on you!

Oops .. typo .. where was my mind at .. lol. These are HUGE issues, not the aforementioned 'hung issues'

Hey all,
HouTx - We seem to have much in common. I am telling the kids at the beginning of Spring Break as well. Should be an intersting conversation. I have been reading lots on how to tell them and, more importantly, what not to say. Still looking forward to being done with this step. Then move out in June and on with life. SOON!